You would think the older you get the less drama you would have with relationships. But, that would be in a perfect world. After talking with my friend Shanita tonight, I hear and feel that there is tons of drama created in some relationships. You would think that people would like to experience simplicity at it's finest but a lot of the time it is not the case.
Shanita...
Without relationships my drama quotient is zero. My life is fairly tranquil. My children are cool, my job is cool, my living situation is cool...therefore little drama. With my last "ex"...high drama from his life spilled over into mine. Since he was drowning in drama and seemed unable to handle his shit, I shifted to amazon mode to take care of things and that created more drama...because he resented me. I have learned that you have to ask questions:
1) Tell me about your divorce
2) What is your relationship with your ex like today
3) how do you communicate with each other
4) What is your relationship with your children
5) What is your relationship with your siblings
6) ....co-workers
7)....parents
8) Are you happy with your job
9) What are your dreams and wishes
10) What are you doing to make them come true
11) Tell me about your oldest friends
These are the areas in which drama often spring unbidden and unwelcome. I have found that long talks help. Do they complain all of the time, or do they have a sunny disposition. Is it always someone else's fault, afterHaving these discussions prepares you for what may come. Then you have to decide, on the balance what kind of crap is this person carrying around and whether you can you deal with it.
David.....
Well, my friend, you have definitely scored a bullseye. Their other interpersonal relationships are a sound barometer of how he or she may treat you. If it sounds or looks too good to be true, it usually is.