There is a restaurant/bar in my town that older women go to meet younger men. It's not my thing, when I was in my 20's I didn't date men in their 20's. Online I have been contacted by young men, some even younger than my sons. Ewwww. I've even been contacted by former students; I really have no interest. The dialogue is always the same…"age is nothing but a number." And while that is true, frame of reference, common interests are involved with that number. Its really not my thing, and to me it feels like a set up for what they perceive is an easy lay. I guess a woman in her 50's is supposed to be desperate. I found out that the term still applies however in that I do date men in their 40's. What I don't understand is why men who date young women don't have the same connotations ascribed to their behavior. What is your take on this David?
David....
Well, Shanita... It seems to be one of those things where men dating younger is more socially accepted than versa. Reminds me of a story I experienced awhile back. My family and I were on a van driving vacation years ago when the kids were toddlers. We were on the eastern outskirts of Dallas, TX on the way to visit my uncle and aunt. Crossing into the city limits I saw a billboard.... " 1-800 vasectomy reversal". Turns out that with the high divorce rate in Dallas, these old guys with previous vasectomies were marrying younger women with no kids. (but still wanted a family of their own) So, the vasectomy reversal business in Dallas was booming. To me, that procedure would be similar the reinserting impacted wisdom teeth.... just crazy... But, to each their own.
At this point, a cougar for me would be a lady much older than I would like to think of. Back in undergrad I did date older women in their thirties. It was the best thing since sliced bread. They appreciated the small things and were not very critical about anything. And did I say the drama factor was non-existent? I did most of my learning about sex and sexuality then. I really appreciate those years.
I can see why some women my age seek out younger men. A lot of men in their 50's are just plain crazy.
But, isn't age exactly that.... nothing but a number?