At this age (56), you have to relax some of your deal breaker list attributes. A mate with a perfect body, absolutely no life drama or a perfect job or retirement is almost a fantasy. You are better off being alone. Which sometimes is not bad thing. I have lots of friends that think being without a mate is the dish of the day. I can't be mad at them. They probably have tried at one time or another and had a bad experience.
You can't let those bad experiences deter you from seeking another's company. It doesn't have to be love.
Settling... If you are going to settle on a particular quality or physical trait a person has, you have to be able to stick with that settling factor. Changing the rules of the game mid stream is not fair to you or to them. I am certainly guilty of changing the rules over and over. I need to be better at accepting those flaws I put up with when I came into the relationship with.
Shanita....
Settling infers you have a list, and that person needs to match up. I think you need to have some non-negotiables but they need to add up. You cannot expect more than what you can offer. If you are a cross between a walrus and a silver back gorilla, then frankly, you are over-reaching when you insist on Miss America. If you are under-employed, and no ambition then you cannot expect someone featured in Fortune magazine. Just saying.....
David...
One can always hope. It's the cornerstone of the American Dream. Some people do win the lottery. It could happen. You see normal people with above average normal looking people all the time. Is it the money, sex of fame? Yet, settling seems to be the course for some couples today.
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