How the heck can you tell? If you're having problems with a relationship and the threat of leaving is imminent, are they stepping it up because they don't want to lose you or they are comfortable in your skin. I've noticed some people, including myself, actually stay in a dating alliance just because they are scared of change and/or have nothing better to do. Been there, done that.
We are getting too old to settle and just hang in there. I feel that if there are signs that it is not working then move on. I will admit that I am the worse at taking my own advice...... hummm?
Shanita....
I have friend who told her husband that he better get a lawyer, because she is getting one. He begged her not to leave him, admitting that he was a terrible husband. I see that he tried, but then reverted back to his old ways. Maybe its a "old dog" situation with new tricks. I don't know. I find the more inaccessible I am the more attentive my current beau is. Maybe he is reacting to me pulling away. I'm not trying to play games, its just that in the past I made him a priority and neglected my friends...now I am not. I am really focused on my friendships right now. I really am focused on living the kind of life I want without depending on a man to be by my side.
David...
I agree on making your friends a priority if you current girlfriend or boyfriend is suspect. I do believe the act of pulling away can get the other person to re-evaluate their importance to you. Thus, getting your point across without even trying. It's ashamed that we sometimes have to revert back to these tactics just to have them see the light.