David.....
Somebody once told me that you get out of a relationship about what you put in. I think that is B.S. Just like a new car. As soon as you drive it off the lot, you are upside down in terms of value. You can also be upside down in a relationship. I was involved in a relationship like this. Plus, the person turns out to be bossy. Always her way or the highway. After a few years, I finally got the message and took the highway. It was rough but I knew it was for the best. I've seen her a few times since and the attraction is still there. But, I realize that just like crack cocaine is good then but, in the long run, it has devastating effects. Check out the book Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman.... a very good read.
To donate..... to give without expecting anything back... Hummmmm? How does that work in a relationship Shanita...
Shanita....
I'm not even sure where to begin here. This is personality driven. Some people are givers, some are takers, some believe in a quid pro quo...they will give as much as they receive. It depends on who the person is. The luck is to find someone compatible to you. You don't like to share, you need to be with a person who wants to keep things separate and maintain an unofficial balance sheet. You like to share, you need to meet someone equal to you in this regard. To be with an opposite in this area is a road to disaster.
To many men in my area, however, the idea of sharing their resources is appalling. They have a slush fund, they will use to fund the pussy, but to actually team up and join forces...never.
David....
Shanita... you're gonna have to explain the slush fund thing and men joining forces. I'm not really clear by what you mean. Maybe men in Colorado think differently.
Shanita...
So the slush fund is an amount of money men budget for chasing women. Its just enough to wine and dine so that they can get what they want. But to commit to a relationship, pool resources...never going to happen.