The worst scenario is to be taken unaware. I once found out that I was breaking up when my cousin called to ask me if I knew my boyfriend was getting married. I called his sister and she did not know anything. Later she called back to say, that he was getting married . . . not only did I not know we were no longer a couple I also did I know he was seeing someone else. I had to go to his house to confront him. A woman I know found out her live in love was getting married when she found the invitation to his wedding on her bed. My most recent difficult break-up occurred when I was at my boyfriend's house and he had to break a date with another woman because I was there. He had failed to tell me that it was over, and had only done so at that moment…personally . . . because I forced the issue. I guess the plan was to text me or let me learn the status of our relationship through osmosis.
Maybe it's all of the new technology, but sometimes guys really "punk" out when it comes to ending things. Maybe it's me but if you're intimately involved, ending things requires a face-to-face. A face to face interaction legitimizes what occurred between the couple, it shows a measure of respect for the other person and frankly it's the adult thing to do. A text message, or even worse, avoidance, to me is childish and cowardly.
Man up!!
If it's been a casual dating situation, PERHAPS a phone call will do. "GHOSTING" i.e. just disappearing to me is poor manners. If it's been a couple of dates..okay maybe a text. Is respecting someone so hard to do?
DAVID......
Well, I myself have never broken up over text or email. I do agree that it is cowardly and impersonal. But I do not agree that breaking up is hard to do.... It's hard as hell to do, especially if you really like or love the person in question. I think as we get older, some of us feel the need to be liked by everyone we encounter. Breaking up creates a chance that person will never even like us again.
I would never do anything but a face to face. Even doing it over a phone call, to me, seems inappropriate. A friend of mine calls it the pump and dump. Brutal. But, sometimes true. Another friend always wants to do an exit interview. Find out what went wrong. What's up with that crap. Rubbing the open wound with alcohol? I feel you have to looking into their soul when you tell them that it is not working for you. It is best to always start and end on a positive note. "You have been an inspiration to me, it's been a great run, your perfume is great, you're the best thing to ever happen to me, etc......."
Hell, breaking up is the hardest thing to do.
There is also that not wasting your time factor. If you break up, you feel that you have wasted a ton of time and at our age perhaps you feel you don't have a lot of time left. A very wise person conveyed to me once, 'you have to approach all experiences, both good and bad, as a chance to learn. You can thank that person for the good times and bad times, because you learned something from each of them.'