Shanita....
My experience is that when the man is more in love with me than I am with him, I am happier. The mantra is that he should love you more than you love him, so that you have the control in the relationship. The person who finds it easier to walk away sort of runs the show. I like that. It keeps the other person on their toes. Right now in my relationship I think we are equally yoked, but I cannot tell, because I am head over heels...not a good place to be. I feel vulnerable...and vulnerability makes me feel insecure. My insecurity makes me reserved and working hard hard not to have all of my eggs in one basket...but I really do want to go all in. I maintain superficial friendships, just in case this relationship does not work out. But that feels duplicitous on all fronts...but I don't know what else to do. I do not want to have my heart broken again. I do not want to invest too much time in another failed relationship...I'm too old for that. What am I supposed to do David?
David.....
That is my mantra Shanita. Yes, control is a necessary evil in a relationship at first You don't want to appear weak. Plus you are not that vested if it goes south in a hurry. You can tell yourself that it didn't matter anyway. Time to move on. Short but sweet subject for me. One of my favorite subjects. Learned this from an co-worker of mine years ago....
My friend, always have something in the wings? Hummmm.. Sounds efficient. I'm too busy concentrating on the only one I have. Not able to focus any energy on the runner ups. But, I do like the way you think....
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