Right now I am dating this guy who I like very much . . . perhaps too much. I am scared to death. I want to end it at times because I am scared. I just don't want to have my heart broken again. So, I have not cut ties with anyone else I am dating.
David....
Pull that trigger and dump the rest. Concentrate on him and fertilize the relationship. Leave all that accessory crap alone. Life is too short. Take all that energy and use it on him. I'm riding my bike nearly everyday, working out with my son three days a week and I can barely hang with my special someone. All this stuff doesn't last forever. Use it while you can.
Me personally, I'm a one woman man. Tried to date a few at once and it was mind blowing. It was a logistical nightmare. Even though I didn't mix 'swizzle sticks', it really tested my morality meter. Trying to remember different names or call everyone 'baby' or 'honey'. Simplicity is my favorite thing next to sushi. K.I.S.S.
Does the current guy know about the others? Full disclosure? What if the shoe was on the other foot? How would you respond? Many questions to ponder Aren't you supposed to eventually get burned when you play with fire too long?
Shanita....
As ever Yoda, you are so correct. Its not him or anything he's doing, its all me and my insecurities. I need to just go all in, what do I have to lose? But more importantly what would I gain. At this point, I know that having my feelings hurt is just a process to work through. I will not be damaged forever, so I'm getting out the scissors as we speak...
David.....
Use the scissors carefully. Just make sure you want to engage. In the immortal words of the group ABBA, 'take a chance on me'. Do you want to keep the accessories as friends? Do you dump them altogether? Plan your work and work your plan.