I always think of this as asking is your crazy small enough to fit in a breadbox or large enough to fit in to a furniture storage pod. It is always relative. And.... how long can he or she hide crazy?... a. less than three months, b. three to six months, c. six to nine months, d. nine to twelve months, e. more that twelve months, f. all of the above, g. more that one of the above or h. always been and forever will be crazy. The actual answer may astound you. I think of this situation as purely dynamic.
Just like a relationship is ever changing, the baggage that lurks on the fringes can mutate too. I feel that there is a direct correlation between crazy and baggage.
Shanita...
After a major break up, major heart break, and major life changes, once I licked my wounds and felt strong enough to get back out there I met this really interesting guy. We'd talk endlessly and have these "interesting" conversations. When I would see him and respond and follow up on those conversations it was like talking to a different person. It took me a minute to catch on that there was a pattern to this and this person was seriously deranged. It was funny though dealing with that kind of crazy really distracted me from my heart break.
I still occasionally talk to the guy in very short bursts...he's fun on the phone but I have no intention of ever seeing him again. To me the bigger problem is with those individuals with unresolved issues from their youth. Emotional abandonment issues from their mother, never can measure up as a man with their fathet, not popular in high school. ..I am shocked that in our 50's some people are still wrestling with those demons. If a man in hos.50's still complains about the the fact their mom did not allow them to wear alpaca sweaters and those horrid high waisted polyester pants in high school...run...run away as fast as you can. Anyone trying to compensate for those things most of us came to terms with 30 years ago are going to take you on a journey you will not enjoy. Equally as bad is when those were the glory days and they are constantly reliving the past.
I'm about enjoying today and looking forward to tomorrow. Yesterday, good or bad provided gifts of texture to our lives not to override or overshadowed today. Move on. Grow up. It's a freekin" new day!
David...
I agree, go out and enjoy today. Be a little selfish with your time and life. You have earned it. You do you boo boo.