Dating later versus earlier in life is completely different for me. I tell people, as a man, when you are young you chase the mighty carrot. And when you are older, that carrot is not as important as it once was. Think of it as the young bull running down the hill and getting one of the heifers and the smart old bull walking down the hill and getting them all. In a hurry versus smart and methodical. Not to say that older men need a lot of women. To me, that just invites exponential craziness. Both men and women need to realize at this age single women outnumber single men at least three to one. So, all those men that keep falling over women and are still a slave to the carrot, need not be.
In your 20's it was more quanity than quality. The more the merrier. Like I said before, you have more years behind you than in front of you. Time is of the essence. But don't be too hasty. Beware of the body by Fisher and brain by Mattel. Things are sometimes not what they seem. Buyer beware......
Shanita….
Men out number women three to one? I don't think the ratio is that bad...nevertheless, I'm not, in fact I have never been particularly pressed.
In my 20's I was a hot mess. Dating me back then would likely get your feelings hurt or heart broken; I had serious commitment issues. I was single, childless and flush with money and a high powered, prestigious job. Men were optional, sort of like a great pair of Manolo stilettos you loved but did not need. You would likely be tossed aside if you exhibited anything I considered a fatal flaw. My motto back then, "you're not good looking enough, smart enough or rich enough to treat me like this." I ascribed to the bus theory. . . if one left, there would be another one in 20 minutes. I bored easily with men my age, and came to appreciate the successful 40 year old.
Fast forward almost 10 years and I met my Waterloo in the guise of an experienced east coast politician. I settled down and raised a family. But settling down with someone so much older, meant that once I got older, he got, well …old. I did not, however, dive back into the dating scene until my 'nest" was emptied, which coincided with turning 50. My assessment? It's much more versatile now: younger, older, white, black, you name it, its a veritable buffet. I'm not so sure if its the times or if men have always appreciated a "seasoned" woman.
At 50, however, I am a much more thoughtful person and I do not treat men as disposable objects. The best part? Those young men in their 20's grew up quite nicely. And I quite enjoy dating them now.