Well, there is no real rule for this. You just have to go with your feelings. If you really like the girl or guy, you may want to take your time and ease into some type of goodbye, end of date kiss. A dry one is always best. Don't try to coat their tonsils with your tongue. Way overkill for a first one. I think the expectation of the first kiss can be intense. It can affect the mood of the specified date once you decide when to do it. Not paying attention and being aloof are good indicators of this. Just so you know, with my experiences, that first kiss is usually horrible. So try to make the best of it.
Asking around and discussing it, the overall view is that the first kiss is a dreaded one at best. In today's world, there is no gender specific task ownership. Either the guy or girl can go for it. It really depends on who is the least shy. You sometimes just have to close your eyes and knock it out if you feel that there is some connection and future for dating this person again.
Be sure to, even if it is lackluster, discuss it the next day. Just in case the first kiss is a deal breaker with your date. ...hopefully things get better from there..... Good luck.....
SHANITA....
The first kiss is usually horrible? Not my experience. If I like a guy enough to kiss them, its usually very sweet. I've gone as long as a month of dating, and I've also kissed on the first date. I like to make my receptiveness clear, I'm not much for playing coy. Hopefully the person is not obtuse to my body language. If I'm not interested my physicality is quite formal and distant. A kiss usually will be proceeded by other kinds of touch: holding hands, holding his arm, sitting close together, walking close together. Depending on the mood I might present my hand, a hug, present my cheeks and maybe my lips.
The first kiss is important because the intimacy of the moment gives you a lot of primal information: their scent, how sensual they might be. I agree I don't want my face swallowed whole, but if I like it, I'll lean in…if not I separate quickly. As the date progresses, it should be clear whether there is a connection or not--to both of us.
My very favorite first date kiss (ever) started with a prelude. We were leaving a restaurant, I was going to take his arm, but he pulled me in wrapped an arm around my shoulder and kissed me on the temple as we walked to his car. I found the gesture so sweet and sexy. I really looked forward to his goodnight kiss . . . and I was not disappointed.